Back by popular demand (OK, maybe by like 2 people), here’s a little update on my dating life since moving to the island.
Guy 1: Meter Reader
This was my first foray back into dating. I met him on OKCupid and we went for a drink. He was really nice and we had a ton in common from music to an affinity for IIFYM; he was reasonably tall and not unattractive, but didn’t have that alpha male thing that I’m so drawn to. I also really felt the age difference – he was 41, and although he didn’t act old, I felt like I was putting on my “responsible adult in the workplace” persona instead of being myself.
We went for a hike as a second date, and I knew it was doomed when he tried to get close to me and I physically recoiled. He texted a few more times after that trying to set up another date and I 100% pulled a fade on him. I’m not proud.
Guy 2: Quebecois Builder Dude
(My nickname skills have gotten seriously rusty in the last couple years, sorry.) This guy was pretty cute and more on my level maturity-wise, but he was also my height and worst of all, not a hockey fan. I realize how ridiculous a dealbreaker that is, but it matters to me. We got a coffee and walked the waterfront and had a nice chat, but there wasn’t anything there for me. He’s been bugging me to hang out again for weeks, and we have tentative plans for tomorrow, but meh.
Guy 3: Too Good to Be True
Met this dad of two on Tinder and went for drinks after a week or two of regular texting. There was major chemistry and he said and did everything right – flirty touching, compliments, confident but not cocky, held my hand and didn’t hesitate to kiss me as we were leaving the pub. Even at the time I felt like he was TOO good, but I ignored my instincts, so thankful to finally find someone who made me FEEL something. By the end of the night, he convinced me to let him come over and we had a grand old time. I hadn’t slept with anyone for a LONG time, so I can’t say I didn’t want it, but it was definitely not in the plan. The second it was over, he was snoring loudly and I started to feel a tinge of regret: the magic spell was broken.
We texted a little in the days following, and on Friday night he invited me over to watch a movie (I know, I know). He gave me his address and everything, and then literally as I was walking out the door, texted me “Hey, I’m going to a friend’s instead.” I haven’t heard from him since. 😐
I did some bitter Googling that night and found out he has over 1000 Facebook friends, many of them women leaving fawning comments, and he’s all over social media humble-bragging about what a great dad he is and blah blah blah. It made me think back to a few of the stories he told me on our date, about a scorned lady bartender he once dated staring daggers at him while he was out with drinks with his friends, or the newly engaged woman who was sending him inappropriate Facebook messages. It all clicked: dude is a player, and I totally got played. It was a good reminder to trust my goddamn instincts.
Guy 4: No More Old Dudes
Last weekend I went on a date with another dad, who was also over 40. He was short and reminded me so much of Ryan facially that I was a bit distracted. We had a nice time and he took me for dinner to an amazing Greek place I’ve been wanting to try, so that was enjoyable. Again, I had a pleasant time but there was nothing there, and there was a noticeable difference in maturity, so I’ve decided 40 year olds are not for me. I figured he wasn’t interested in me either as I hadn’t heard from him all week, but he texted me last night to suggest drinks. This time I’m not bothering with a second date.
Guy 6: The Principal
Oh look, another dad! MANY guys here have kids and ex-wives, and I wanted to be open-minded, but I do think this might be a soft dealbreaker for me. This guy was a high school principal and was super nice, cute, AMAZING blue eyes, fit, all that… but short and TINY. I’d break him for sure. We went for sushi and beer and had great conversation, although again I felt like I was on a job interview and had to be on my best behaviour. He tried to kiss me at the end and I gave him the cheek – it was awkward as hell. He had already asked me out again by the time I got back to my place, but I don’t think it will happen.
You may have noticed I skipped Guy 5.
I don’t want to jinx it. Let’s just say I’m really, really into him, and I think it might be mutual. 🙂
I’ve been a busy girl!